We’ve all done it. That little mental game where we convince ourselves that happiness is just one more thing away.
“I’ll be happy when I lose weight.”
“I’ll be happy when I get that promotion.”
“I’ll be happy when I’m in a relationship.”
“I’ll be happy when I finally book that boudoir session, but only after I hit the gym for six months first.”
Sound familiar? Yeah. Same.
But here’s the problem—this sh*t never ends. The finish line keeps moving, and every time we get close to what we thought would make us happy, our brains just push the goalpost further down the field. And you know what that means? We never actually let ourselves be happy.
Let’s talk about why this happens, why it’s total bullsh*t, and most importantly, how to break the cycle.
Why Do We Fall for the ‘I’ll Be Happy When…’ Lie?
Blame society, social media, childhood conditioning—hell, blame capitalism if you want (because let’s be real, it plays a part). We’ve been trained to believe that happiness is always tied to some external achievement. We think it’s something we have to earn, rather than something we can just choose.
And the worst part? Even when we get the thing we’ve been waiting for, that moment of happiness is fleeting as hell.Because instead of celebrating, we move on to the next thing.
“Okay, I lost the weight, but now I just need to tone up a bit more.”
“Okay, I got the promotion, but now I need to prove myself even more.”
“Okay, I booked the boudoir session, but now I need to stress about looking perfect for it.”
And so the cycle continues.
How to Escape the ‘I’ll Be Happy When…’ Trap
The good news? You don’t have to live like this. Here’s how to shut this sh*t down and start embracing happiness now,instead of postponing it for some imaginary future moment.
1. Call Out the Bullsh*t in Real Time
The next time you catch yourself thinking “I’ll be happy when…”—pause. Ask yourself: “What if I just let myself be happy now?”
What if nothing actually needed to change? What if you’re already enough, already worthy, already deserving of happiness? (Spoiler: you are.)
2. Flip the Script
Instead of waiting for happiness, start shifting your focus to what’s already good. Gratitude might sound like some fluffy self-help sh*t, but it works. Try asking yourself:
✔️ What’s something I love about my life right now?
✔️ What’s one thing I appreciate about my body today?
✔️ What’s something I’ve already accomplished that past-me would be proud of?
Small shifts like this add up, and before you know it, you start seeing more of the good.
3. Stop Holding Your Damn Life Hostage
Waiting until you lose weight to wear the outfit?
Waiting until you feel more confident to take the photos?
Waiting until you feel “ready” to do the thing you really want to do?
F*ck that.
Wear the outfit now. Take the damn photos. Do the thing. You are allowed to fully live in the body, the life, and the moment you have right now.
4. Accept That Happiness Is an Inside Job
Happiness isn’t something you reach when everything finally aligns. It’s a choice. A habit. A daily f*cking decision.
And yeah, life throws curveballs. You’re not going to be happy every second of every day. But when you stop waiting for happiness and start choosing it, everything shifts.
Final Thought: Let Yourself Be F*cking Happy Now
There’s nothing wrong with having goals, but your happiness isn’t on layaway. You don’t have to wait until you hit some magical milestone to enjoy your life.
The version of you reading this? She’s already enough.
The body you have today? It’s already worthy.
The life you’re living right now? It’s already worth celebrating.
So, if you’ve been waiting for a sign to stop postponing joy and start embracing yourself exactly as you are—this is it.
And if booking a boudoir session is something you’ve been putting off because you’re waiting for the “perfect time”? Let me tell you something—the perfect time is right f*cking now. DM us. We’ll show you just how beautiful you already are. 💖
xoxo
Amy & Brie
P.S. If your brain is still trying to convince you to “wait,” tell it to sit the f*ck down. You deserve to feel amazing NOW, not 10 pounds from now. 💋