As a boudoir photographer, I have the privilege of meeting and showing countless women how gorgeous they are. Over the years, I’ve witnessed countless women walk into my studio, each carrying their unique stories, strengths, and insecurities. One recurring theme that often emerges during our sessions is the pervasive nature of perfectionism and how it holds us back, especially as women.
Perfectionism is a sneaky bitch. It pretends to be a drive for excellence, a pursuit of the best version of ourselves. But that’s bullshit. what it really is is a deep-seated fear—fear of judgment, fear of failure, fear of not being enough. We live in a society that constantly bombards us with unrealistic standards of beauty, success, and happiness. And for some reason we believe if we use fix this or perfect that we will finally be worthy of love and acceptance. That’s the biggest pile of shit ever!
In the studio, I see first-hand how perfectionism freaking paralyzes women.
It stops them from booking that boudoir session they’ve always wanted because they feel they need to lose a few more pounds or wait until they’ve achieved some elusive standard of beauty. It prevents them from fully embracing their sensuality and confidence, as they’re too focused on their perceived flaws. Or even worse it tells women that they are never going to be good enough to look good in this type of photography. Fuck That.
True beauty lies in our authenticity and vulnerability. When we let go of the need to be perfect, we allow ourselves to be seen as we truly are. This means embracing the scars, the stretch marks, the unique curves, and the natural expressions. These elements tell your story; they are the markers of your journey and your strength not things to be ashamed of.
One of the most powerful moments in the boudoir experience is when a woman begins to let go of her insecurities and starts to see herself through a different lens. That instant when they can actually see how beautiful they are. It’s a transformative experience that goes beyond the photographs. It’s about reclaiming your power, celebrating your body, and acknowledging that you are enough just as you are.
So how do we stop the bullshittery? It starts with self-awareness. Acknowledge the fear that drives your perfectionist tendencies. Understand that it’s okay to feel vulnerable and that vulnerability is not a weakness but a source of strength. Surround yourself with supportive and empowering individuals who uplift you rather than perpetuate unrealistic standards.
In your journey towards self-acceptance, consider experiencing a boudoir session. It can be a profound act of self-love and defiance against perfectionism. Allow yourself to be captured in your most authentic form, and see the beauty in your imperfections.
Embrace them. Celebrate them. And most importantly, love yourself fiercely.
XOXO
Amy and Brie
Thank you for reading. If you’re ready to embrace your true self and celebrate your unique beauty, I invite you to book a boudoir session. You can start the process here