So as I look at my upcoming calendar for the week I am reminded that this week marks my anniversary of signing my lease 2 years ago. What a wild and crazy ride this has been. Well over 500 women have come to see me since I opened up my business in 2015 and I couldn’t be more grateful for not only their buisness but also their trust and friendships! I have learned so many things about business, marketing, photograpy, balance etc. However the biggest lessons I have learned have been from the women who have come thru my doors. Their strength in vulnerability, their willingness to step out of their box has taught me so many lessons
- No one is happy with their body. NO ONE. I ask most women who come to see me what they hate about their body and they can give me a long list, but if I ask them what they love about their body they will immediately look away and have to think hard to give me an answer….and a lot of the time the answer is nothing at all. Fact is that no one feels like they are supposed to love their body. How fucking sad is that? That society has given us such unrealistic expectations that no one could ever meet and for whatever reason it is thought of as “vain” to love something about yourself. That is completely ridiculous. Those beautiful strong women you see on my page?? They all are as insecure with their bodies are you are. I promise. The only one who is judging your body is you.
2. Women really honestly have absolutely no idea what they actually look like. For real. I think we all stand in front of the mirror naked slouched over and grab any kind of roll and magnify that 10000 percent. Its bullshit. Every single one of us have a roll when we bend over… so we can move ladies. Its skin…and honestly even if its not skin who the fuck cares? It does not define how beautiful you are. Neither do scars stretch marks, or any other thing you define as an imperfection. Perfection doesnt exist. Try to see yourself objectively…it changes everything
3. Lingerie sizing is seriously fucked up. I have ranted about this before in my private Facebook group…but if you haven’t seen it just trust me. It is. On that note, body suits are always on point for boudoir sessions….it is one piece of lingerie that honestly works for any body type…..but buy at least one size up and remember the numbers are not what matter
4. Everything amazing comes when we get out of our own heads. I see this every single day. When my client relaxes and stops focusing on being nervous thats when we make magic in the studio. I struggle with this so much since I can be exceptionally introverted but when I just relax and go with it things turn out way better than I ever imagine it could. Break out of that fucking box loves
5. Body positivity starts at HOME. No child is born hating their bodies. We complain about society and media but our children are our greatest mirrors…they watch most of all how we talk to ourselves and how we look at ourselves. That is part of what makes boudoir so fucking powerful. It not only changes us but it changes the way our kids will eventually look at themselves. We need to change this! We can change this. Lets not have a generation of women growing up hating their bodies too.
6. Boudoir is exceptionally powerful… It can make a woman feel empowered, strong and beautiful. It also can be damaging if done poorly. Sadly I have many women who come to me after a poor experience with even worse body image issues than where they started. Please make sure that you research and find an established reputable boudoir photographer who is experienced in photographing all shapes and sizes of women. Posing and angles are sooooo freaking important!!!!!!
7. Vulnerability, imperfection, transparency….those are some of the most beautiful things. They make you you. they make you real. they make life interesting. embrace them don’t hide them!! You are beautiful just the way you are…you are worthy just because of you. The only one who doesnt see that is you….lets change that please
xoxoxo
Amy
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