Let’s talk about something we all struggle with—saying no. Not the half-a**ed, “Maybe” or “I’ll see what I can do,” but the straight-up, unapologetic, NOPE.
If you’re the type who feels like a total a**hole every time you turn something down, listen up. Saying no isn’t mean, rude, or selfish—it’s f*cking necessary.
Here’s how to do it without feeling like you’ve personally offended the universe:
1. Drop the Guilt.
You’re not responsible for everyone’s happiness. Saying no to sh*t that drains you means you’re protecting your energy, and that’s not just okay—it’s essential.
2. Be Direct, Not a Doormat.
No need for a novel-length excuse. Just say it:
- “Thanks, but I’m gonna pass.”
- “I can’t commit to that right now.”
- “That’s not gonna work for me.”
Short. Sweet. No over-explaining.
3. Stop Over-Apologizing.
You don’t owe anyone a damn apology for setting boundaries. “No” is a complete sentence, babe. Use it.
4. Practice the Pause.
When someone asks for your time, energy, or money, take a sec before responding. You don’t have to say yes just because they asked. Give yourself a moment to think, then respond with what actually works for you.
5. Prioritize Your Damn Self.
Every time you say yes to something you don’t want to do, you’re saying no to yourself. Protect your peace. You’re allowed to put yourself first without feeling like a jerk.
Saying no is an art—and like any art, it takes practice. But the more you do it, the easier it gets. So, next time someone asks you for one more thing, channel your inner badass and own that no.
You’ve got this.
XOXO
Amy & Brie
🖤✨
P.S. If you need permission to start saying no without guilt, consider this it. Go forth and reclaim your time.