Doing a boudoir shoot results in a MAJOR confidence boost. You see yourself glammed up and looking hot as hell while you’re at your most vulnerable, so how could it not??? But unfortunately, that high doesn’t last forever. Sure, it will last for a few weeks, or maybe even months, but sooner or later, the “sexy” feeling will wear off and you’ll start being hard on yourself again (though hopefully not as much). My main goal as a boudoir photographer is for women to feel sexy and comfortable in their skin all the time, not just after you leave my studio. That’s why I offer so many products like albums, metals, and canvases, so you can see yourself looking fierce on a DAILY basis.
But let’s get real, some days that’s just not quite enough. Some days you need a little something extra. So, I’m here to help! I’ve compiled a list of a few things you can do to help get an extra boost of sexiness when looking at your images just isn’t fully doing it for ya.
1. Listen to Music
Nothing puts me in a sexy state of mind quite like music. That’s why I have a playlist going your entire session! Some of my go-to artists are The Weeknd, Lana del Ray, or Halsey. But that doesn’t have to be your thing! Type in ‘sexy’ or ‘boudoir’ playlists into Spotify or just choose whatever that puts you in a good state of mind and gets you feeling seductive.
Then put that music on repeat, honey! I promise it will help circle you right back to that sexy place.
2. Put on Some Sexy Undies (Or None at All!)
I firmly believe there are two types of women in the world: those of us who feel sexy in underwear and those who feel sexy without it. A lot of women feel super badass and sexy when they go commando. In all honesty, I don’t think a friend of mine has worn undies on a hot night out in years…
But I’m a girl who feels so fucking sexy in nice underwear (or even better, a matching bra/panty set!). Either way, you’ll be feeling yourself in no time, because as you go about your day you’ll remember those spicy undies (or lack thereof!) beneath your clothes. It will be like your little secret, and secrets are sexy.
3. Wear a Hot Outfit
Going along with #2, never underestimate the psychological power of an outfit that makes you feel your best. Even if you’re just watching TV, making dinner, or vacuuming the hallway, wear something fierce! Maybe it’s a sexy lingerie set, your favorite pair of jeans, or your go-to date night outfit.
Ever notice how when you wear something you know you look hot in your entire attitude changes? So, skip those comfy clothes for a day, light some candles, and slip into something sexy.
4. Go on a Date… with Yourself!
Independence is one of the sexiest traits there is, period. It doesn’t matter if you’re in a relationship or as single as they come, when you’re feeling a little low, treat yo ‘self to a hot date with you! Get a relaxing massage, go see that movie you’ve had your eye on, hit up a new restaurant and indulge in a delicious meal. Or, for my fellow introverts, go somewhere new, bring a good book, and occasionally pause to take in the uniqueness of your surroundings.
Remember that the world is full of possibilities. I think there’s something very badass and mysterious (and therefore hot) about going on a little adventure of your own and experiencing things by yourself!
Learning how to feel sexy and comfortable with yourself on a daily basis isn’t just about what you look like, no matter how much our society tells us otherwise. It’s all about self-confidence, determination, and spirit, to name a few. Believe me when I say, if you believe that you’re a sexy person with a lot to offer the world, it doesn’t matter what you look like. Other people will notice and think you’re sexy too.
Unfortunately, not all tips are quick fixes. As much as it sucks, most significant change (like changing your view of yourself) doesn’t happen overnight. Doing a boudoir session will 100% jump-start this process for you, and your images and the above tips will help you out on your bad days, but if you want lasting change you have to work for it.
Start by thinking more positively about yourself. Instead of listing all the things you want to change, be thankful for the parts you love and what makes you unique. Count your blessings and your strengths on a daily basis, and don’t get discouraged- you’ve already made such great progress!
Remember that your journey IS the result and doing things to improve the way you see yourself, will never disappoint.
Plus, you’ll always be one fucking sexy-ass human in my eyes! 😘
XOXO
-Amy
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